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Testimonial: Achieving Multiple Goals with Dr Nikki and Hypnosis
After leaving the USMC after Operation Desert Storm, I had a lot of concentration and focus issues. I could not remain focus (sic) on certain goals. I would start projects and never finish them. I started seeing Dr. Nikki in 1998 on various issues that stemmed from my failures. From 1998 to 2010, I have several sessions with her. Listed below are some of the issues.
• Relationships with Women
• Continuing with education
• Working out consistently
In reference to my issues with women, I was able to see the value of what I brought to the relationship in terms of my emotions and the ability to communicate with my significant other. With her help, I was able to move forward with my current girlfriend at that time. Look beyond the residual effects of the baggage of my past relationships. I ended up marrying my significant other and I have been happily married for last 9 years.
Also, my issue with continuing with my education, my goal was to obtain an MBA. I had enrolled in courses but would always drop them due to focus and time management issues. After seeing Dr. Nikki, she helped me remain focus and make my goal a priority. I was able to graduate from the MBA program in two years at the top of my class.
Lastly, with the issues I had with my weight. I was 20 lbs over weight and my medical doctor was instructing me to lose the weight due to my heart issues. I have worked out consistently through the years but I would lose the weight but I would quickly gain the weight back. I lacked the discipline with my routine and eating habits. With the help of Dr. Nikki, I am now going on 4 years of now of being at my desired weight. I have a weekly gym routine and I am eating correctly.
I recommend Dr Nikki for any long term changes you need to make in your behavior. She has helped me tremendously! If what you’re doing now isn’t working. Give Dr Nikki a call.
Marlon D. Austria
In any other circumstance, if someone said open wide so I can stick a drill in your mouth, you’d run for the hills. Your fight or flight instinct would kick in and rightfully so. Not surprising, when the dentist is staring down at you, your conscious mind can only override your instinctual fear just so much.
Deep in the brain’s limbic system, (commonly called the ‘animal brain’) human’s have survival instincts in the same way any animal does. It controls survival instincts and primitive emotions such as rage, fear, and pleasure relating to eating and sex. In civilized society, where threats to our physical survival are not as rampant, we use the conscious part of our mind to decide what we should or shouldn’t react to. What happens when conscious mind is at odds with your instinct? You guessed it….Anxiety!
Your conscious mind may tell you it’s important to have the cavity fixed or it will get worse, but your animal brain is a siren shouting, “DANGER, DANGER….AVOID…AVOID”. Now you wouldn’t want your animal brain to fail you when there is real danger, would you?
Be grateful for the fear response. But does this mean you’re doomed to lose your teeth one by one? Or let an untreated infected tooth seep into your bloodstream and threaten your life? If this were to happen, paradoxically, your survival response would be the very thing that caused your death.
Good news. Hypnosis to the rescue!!! Hypnosis is the bridge from your conscious mind to your unconscious mind. In this profoundly relaxed state, messages of safety are sent to the animal brain. The soothing suggestions get your animal brain purring like a content kitty cat.
For more on how hypnosis works, follow this blog.
Signs of Fear
Sweating, clammy hands, faint feeling, dry mouth, nausea, worrisome, fear losing control, restlessness, gagging sensation, feeling of dread, sudden uncontrollable jerking movements and more.
After years of putting off visits to the dentist, a long overdue visit revealed a plethora of cavities that needed to be fixed ASAP. The anxiety of getting dental work done quickly set in and my first round of getting cavities filled was nerve racking and painful. My dentist recommended Dr. Nikki Goldman’s services and I responded with a resounding YES!
Dr. Goldman had me feeling calm and relaxed at my next appointment, so much so, that I almost fell asleep during the procedure. I would absolutely recommend her services.
Spooked by the urge to gobble all the Halloween candy? Want to exorcise the demons? Food is appealing, in part, because we make images in our mind’s eye about how good it looks. We remember how enjoyable it tasted and bring it all back in living color. Remember Pavlov’s dogs?
Want to stop drooling? If you don’t want to be called Rover then stop being a Hoover, (vacuum that is!) Use these tricks and leave the treats for your tiny little ghosts and goblins.
Close your eyes and picture chocolate, (or any candy you crave). Chances are you see a colorful inviting picture. Now make the picture in black and white. Does it change its appeal? Change the perspective even more. Make the picture half the size and push it to the other side of the room. Watch your desire disappear.
I’ve been dieting for two months. I’m afraid of being tempted during the holidays, gaining weight back and eating compulsively like I used to. What tips do you have to help me stick to my diet?
You have eaten compulsively and now you are dieting compulsively. These are opposite ends of the same coin. First you were obsessed with eating and now you are obsessed with not eating. The trick is to become more moderate in both regards.
A compulsion occurs when the internal pressure builds up. Imagine pounding on a covered tube of toothpaste. The force of the paste against the sides will compel it to break the tube and thrust outward. The same is true of the pressure to stick to a diet. Most diets, however reasonable and flexible they may be, add undue internal pressure. Instead of dieting, learn natural ways to incorporate healthy eating patterns into your lifestyle.
First, imagine if weight was not an issue for you and you could eat anything you really wanted, what would you eat? You may think you would lose all control and eat everything and anything. While you might at first, your spree would be short lived. Once you realized you truly could eat anything you wanted, you’d more than likely choose food according to your body’s need for nutrition. There are a series of exercises to help you get to this point. (E-mail me and I’ll send you some). Try this to help you get started during the holidays.
Even normal eaters are tempted to eat a bit more during the holidays. Since you have a history of compulsive eating, accept you will too. The more you accept this and let go of unreasonable expectations, the less pressure you’ll feel and the less you’ll need compulsive eating to release the tension.
Focus your attention on the experience of eating. Become hypersensitive to the color and smell before you put the food in your mouth. Then, as you chew, notice the texture, taste, temperature and flavor of the food. Savor the experience and enjoy your food. Notice what it feels like when you swallow. Pay attention to the feeling when the food hits the pit of your stomach.
Most compulsive eaters “go unconscious” when they eat. By ignoring their physical experience, they forget to notice when they are satisfied. Tell yourself you can eat anything you want as long as you are “aware and conscious” when you eat. If you catch yourself going “unconscious” stop, put the food down, take a deep breath and begin your awareness process again before you put another bite in your mouth. My clients, who have done this process, have been amazed at how much more they enjoy food and are satisfied with less.
This excerpt is from Dr. Nikki’s book, Success for the Diet Dropout: Proven Life Strategies for Women who want to Stop Hating their Bodies. (available on Amazon.com) (858) 335-9867 She uses hypnosis to help people change eating patterns
Dear Dr. Nikki,
My son was directionless after high school. We got the book, Success without College: Why your Child may not Have to Go to College Right Now and May Not Have to Go at All by Linda Lee. He started thumbing through it. The next thing we knew, he was in his bedroom devouring the whole thing. My wife is English and in Great Britain, when kids finish the equivalent of high school, they take a year off. It relieves the pressure. Maybe you could print this for others who are about to graduate.
Finding a different path
An excellent book suggestion. The author, a highly successful motivated career woman, had great expectations for her son. Once she realized he was not ready for college, she discovered he was not alone. Only 26% of students receive a college degree within five years after high school. She goes on to state the many successful, respected people who have done well without college including Harry Truman, Bill Gates, William Faulkner and Thomas Edison. She urges parents to consider a sense of pride rather than shame for their children who fit a different mold or no mold at all.
I like to tell the story about a woman whose father died when she was seven years old leaving her with an older sister and a mother ill with tuberculosis. Her mother spent a year at a time in the hospital leaving her older sister and foster homes to raise her. When her mother was well, she could barely provide for the family, as she was an immigrant and couldn’t read or write English. At her best, she’d sew coat hems for a quarter and sold eggs door to door. (A true entrepreneur!) Thoughts of the future were a waste of the precious moments they needed to get enough food for today. College for them was as doable as swinging from a star.
The woman was quick-witted, gutsy, and motivated to rise above her circumstances. She spent some years floundering as a mediocre typist in an office typing pool: (virtually the only career path for women in the 1950’s) She sought something more and created an opportunity for herself as an apprentice in real estate. She went on to become a broker and own a real estate office. She did well enough to buy a house in the suburbs and raise her children in one of the better school districts in New York. There are many such stores of people who make more out of less. But this one is special to me because it is about my mother.
College may be the obvious path but perhaps “you should not go where the path my lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail for others to follow.”
Nikki Goldman Ph.D. uses hypnosis on children and adults for self-esteem, behavior changes and more. Send comments to DrNikki@DrNikkiGoldman.com or call her at 858-335-9867.