Premise: Your unconscious mind (or wisdom mind ) knows more than your conscious (or critical mind.)
Think of Google. No matter how many people are searching for information at the same time, it responds to your request in a matter of moments. It is everywhere at the same time. And yet…Google is nowhere. (Hmmm! Some people talk about God that way! God…Google…!)
Access your unconscious, (wisdom) mind: To do this, bypass your critical, (or conscious) mind with deep relaxation. Achieve deep relaxation with any number of self-hypnosis techniques.The most simple and immediate way is to put on ‘Alpha’ or ‘Theta’ music which you can download from the internet. I use www.RoyaltyFreeMusic.com Once your mind is relaxed:
Begin the process of time regression: Close your eyes. Start with recalling pleasant memories such as a happy birthday, holiday or vacation. This is to get your mind in the process of retrieving past memories. Take a few minutes and imagine as many details as you can. Put yourself in the situation by seeing the things around you, hearing the sounds, smelling the scents and feeling your body. For example: “I remember a Christmas with family friends. I can see a green box. I open it and see some socks. I feel the stiff cardboard as I open it.” If you replay the event several times you will likely recall more and more details.
Now it’s time to apply it to your lost item: With your eyes closed and your mind relaxed, remember a time when you had it. It could be the very last time you remember seeing it or a previous time. See it in your minds eye. Allow yourself to be “in” the situation. To immerse yourself. Imagine you are in your own body looking out from your own eyes. (Not looking at yourself on a movie screen)
Ask yourself the following questions: What do I see. What am I doing. Do I feel the item in my hand? . Am I in a hurry to go somewhere/ Had I just hung up the phone. Did I just walk into the house? What sounds can I hear. Are the kids there in the house with me? Continue to replay this over and over. More and more details will come to you. Then do the same thing with an other situation in which you had the item. Eventually, the memory of last time you had it will surface.
If you still haven’t found the item: Create a hot air balloon in your mind’s eye. This is a communication device from your conscious mind to your unconscious mind. Put a picture of the item in the balloon. Ask for the item to be found. See a picture of yourself holding the item again. Put that in the balloon. Now release the balloon and watch it going higher and higher until you can no longer see it. Feel yourself let go of the problem.. . Your unconscious mind is now on a search. Go about your daily activities. Let the process ‘percolate’. It may take a couple of hours, or days. At some point when you least expect it, like a bolt of lightening, you’ll suddenly remember where it is.
- Identify how you experience anxiety now: (see example below)
- Identify how you’d like to experience yourself (see example below)
- End result imagery: close your eyes and imagine things as you want them according to your own the description
This is from someone who experiences anxiety in social situation
1. My current experience: I’m withdrawn, cling close to wall, my eyes dart quickly around the room. When I do interact, I always ask questions and keep them talking so that I don’t have to. If they ask me about myself,I can’t think of anything.
I enjoy my own company because I’m okay with myself. So I like to do things alone. I perceive others as having expectations about how I should dress and I’m never sure about clothes. Also, I’m only physically and emotionally comfortable in casual clothes. In social situations dressier clothes are usually expected.
Also, I’m expected to chit chat and make small talk. I’m not good at that. There is no outcome and that bothers me. It’s just about aimless talking not about a goal. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. With a goal, I know what to do.I’m usually able to pull it off. No one sees me as failing because I know how to fake it. I know how to just get through it. But there’s no enjoyment for me. I guess success would be if I enjoyed it. I get through it without joy
I’m looking at my face and seeing the tension. (she is describing dissociation)
I feel stuck like I can’t move. I can’t go from one thing to another. I can’t talk to someone then get up and get a drink then talk to someone else. If I am talking to someone, I feel frozen in that place.
2. How I’d like to experience myself in the situation
Talking comfortably with one person, sitting in a chair, face muscles relaxed. I guess success would be if I enjoyed it.
I’d know what to do and say. Or I wouldn’t care and just do and say what ever came to mind. .The conversation would go back and forth instead of me asking questions about her.
I’d look forward to it. I’d enjoy getting to know a person or two. I could talk about myself as well as listen to them. I’d like to talk about myself without self-consciousness….to believe they care at all about what I have to say.I’d like not to have to keep them talking so I don’t have to talk about myself.
I’d feel ease in moving around the room and changing my focus of attention. Maybe from one person to another. Or from one activity to another. I would feel open to having someone approach me instead of having to be in control of choosing someone to talk to.
3. Close your eyes and either picture yourself or use self-talk to imagine the above.
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I hear it all the time….Well it was your choice to drink that beer or eat that junk food. If it’s really a choice, why would you indulge since it goes against the thing you really want? You know these substances are poisons that are killing your body? You want to be healthy or slim or a non-drinker or whatever the case may be.
The truth is, most decisions are made below the level of awareness.Subliminal messages we hear and see throughout life are responsible for beliefs. It is those beliefs that determine our attitude, perspective and ultimately our behavior.
Here are 3 simple steps to truly change a habit.
- Admit that it is more than just a habit. It is unconscious decision you need to change
- Create a strong motivation or desire for the result. A strong motivation needs to benefit you. Word it in a way that gives you the benefit not someone else. Weak motivation: My wife is always mad at me because I drink. It will make her happy if I stop. Strong motivation: I will enjoy my family more.
- Condition the unconscious mind with mental rehearsal- Choose one situation in which the habit is deeply ingrained. Now close your eyes and visualize it the way you would like it to be. For example: Let’s say you always drink to relax after work. Imagine instead, that you come home from work and listen to a relaxing self-hypnosis recording. After the 15 minute relaxation, the desire to drink is gone. You get up and get on with your evening. Repeat this once or twice per day until it becomes your reality. Then choose an other situation to revamp.
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Until next time….
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A book review of Choices and Illusions by Eldon Taylor
With life stories and proven science, Eldon Taylor takes us through an empowering journey. If you believe you choose your life, you are simultaneously mistaken and correct. Throw in some philosophy and you have his book Choices and Illusions, Taylor explains how subliminal messages we hear and see throughout life are responsible for beliefs. It is those beliefs that determine our behavior, attitude and perspective. When an event occurs which effects our emotions, a belief results.
For example, if, as a youngster, no one was home when you returned from school, you may have felt scared and unsafe. You might develop a belief that you must take care of yourself because no one is dependable. Out of this belief, as an adult, you may thwart attempts from others to help you in anyway. You believe they aren’t there for you and you behave in a way to prove your truth. Thus the Illusion of choice. Is he saying we are destined to be victims of our past conditioning?
Not at all. Here is where Taylor shows you how to create choice. He explains how you can take the very same mechanism; learning that takes place below the level of awareness, and condition yourself the way you want to believe and behave. He calls this his “InnerTalk” program. This is his version of subliminal messaging.
If you are familiar with the movie, “The Secret” and the accompanying philosophy, ‘The law of attraction’, Choices and Illusions will enhance your understanding. In addition, it will enable you to decide what you want to attract, and show you how to create the supporting belief.
If this is your first introduction to this type of thinking, hold on to your hat because you are in for a great ride. Taylor doesn’t just give you the information and leave you to your own devices. The book comes with a CD already programmed with self improvement subliminal messages.
If you are looking for a path in which to carve out your future, this is an excellent tool.
Nikki Goldman Ph.D. is a clinical hypnotherapist in private practice. She offers a free self-hypnosis audio program which you can listen to anytime of the day or night. Go to
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Is Alcohol adding Joy or Junk to your Life?
(Also listen to podcast: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thrivetalkradio/2013/05/27/does-your-drinking-drugs-add-joy-or-junk-to-your-life)
For many people who want to stop drinking, Alcoholics Anonymous seems like the only option. However, there is new innovative thinking. It is possible to change from feeling powerless over alcohol to becoming someone for whom alcohol is a thing of their past. Something they used to do but don’t anymore: Someone who is happy and at peace as a non-drinker.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are successful with AA, please continue. I am not here to degrade anything that works for you. I am simply offering an alternative to those for whom AA has not worked.
With current brain imaging techniques and new understandings of how the brain works, we are able to affect the mental capacity in profound ways. However, if you are an truly an alcoholic physiologically as well as psychologically, moderation in drinking may be unrealistic. Although I do know some who have accomplished this, the best way to be a peaceful non-drinker is to put ALL alcohol in your past and leave it there.
Herein lies the difference between the belief of struggle and what can be done today.
1. , You don’t have to quit all at once. The first step is to do less harm. If that means
one less beer or glass of wine tonight…then that’s a good start.
2. With Neuro-linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy, you can change your belief system. and eliminate the cravings.
Beliefs create neural pathways in your brain. So too do cravings. The neural pathways of alcohol have created ‘pleasure center’
.It works like this. These neural pathways are like a groove in the dirt. If you take a wheelbarrow from the garage to the garden everyday, it will form a groove. Each time you take the wheelbarrow out, if it is anywhere near the original groove, it will fall in. Imagine the difference when you fill the groove with dirt, move the wheelbarrow over and form a new and better groove: One that gives you a new ‘pleasure center’. Once you create this new pleasure center in your brain, you can choose that instead of the alcohol. This is what Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy can help you do.
3. Some programs continues to reinforce the “struggle” My program takes a more positive approach.
I witnessed this distress during the holidays. Twelve-Step members continued to talk about how difficult the upcoming season would be. Alcohol would be everywhere. They’d have to go to many more meetings in order to “get through” this problematic time. Again I remind you, if this has worked to help you, please continue. I am suggesting, however, there is a more positive approach.
You can be happy and at peace as a non-drinker. Drinking is just a thing of your past. Something you needn’t bother with any more. You are confident and strong as a non-drinker. You have excellent coping skills that help you through life’s troubles. These coping skills are better and more effective than alcohol ever was.
Next week, I will explain in more detail how you can accomplish this.
Until then, if you want more tips on how to live happy and peaceful as a
non-drinker be sure to listen to the podcast. Here’s the link.
Chat with you next time.
Testimonial: Achieving Multiple Goals with Dr Nikki and Hypnosis
After leaving the USMC after Operation Desert Storm, I had a lot of concentration and focus issues. I could not remain focus (sic) on certain goals. I would start projects and never finish them. I started seeing Dr. Nikki in 1998 on various issues that stemmed from my failures. From 1998 to 2010, I have several sessions with her. Listed below are some of the issues.
• Relationships with Women
• Continuing with education
• Working out consistently
In reference to my issues with women, I was able to see the value of what I brought to the relationship in terms of my emotions and the ability to communicate with my significant other. With her help, I was able to move forward with my current girlfriend at that time. Look beyond the residual effects of the baggage of my past relationships. I ended up marrying my significant other and I have been happily married for last 9 years.
Also, my issue with continuing with my education, my goal was to obtain an MBA. I had enrolled in courses but would always drop them due to focus and time management issues. After seeing Dr. Nikki, she helped me remain focus and make my goal a priority. I was able to graduate from the MBA program in two years at the top of my class.
Lastly, with the issues I had with my weight. I was 20 lbs over weight and my medical doctor was instructing me to lose the weight due to my heart issues. I have worked out consistently through the years but I would lose the weight but I would quickly gain the weight back. I lacked the discipline with my routine and eating habits. With the help of Dr. Nikki, I am now going on 4 years of now of being at my desired weight. I have a weekly gym routine and I am eating correctly.
I recommend Dr Nikki for any long term changes you need to make in your behavior. She has helped me tremendously! If what you’re doing now isn’t working.
Give Dr Nikki a call.
Marlon D. Austria