what is emotional eating?
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Ever eat when you’re not hungry? Most people have at one time or an other. However, if you regularly do this, you are likely an emotional eater.
Stress, conflict, anxiety, sadness even happiness energize our mind and body in different ways. This energy needs an outlet. If you don’t direct it in positive ways, it will find its own way….destructive behaviors such as over eating.
Repetitive behavior is soothing to the unconscious mind. For example, you may notice taking a walk is calming. So what is it that makes you head for the refrigerator instead?
The repetition of chewing can be an attempt to allay our stress. In addition, food alters our energy. Do you choose heavy foods like fries and hamburgers. Do you feel “weighed down” afterwards? Perhaps this is an attempt to settle you out of control feelings. Do you eat sugars like candy, cake and ice cream to enliven you in order to cope with all that needs to be done?
* Results are not typical and may vary
Results are not typical and may vary
Premise: Your unconscious mind (or wisdom mind ) knows more than your conscious (or critical mind.)
Think of Google. No matter how many people are searching for information at the same time, it responds to your request in a matter of moments. It is everywhere at the same time. And yet…Google is nowhere. (Hmmm! Some people talk about God that way! God…Google… just sayin!)
Access your unconscious, (wisdom) mind: To do this, bypass your critical, (or conscious) mind with deep relaxation. Achieve deep relaxation with any number of self-hypnosis techniques.The most simple and immediate way is to put on ‘Alpha’ or ‘Theta’ music which you can download from the internet. I use www.RoyaltyFreeMusic.com Once your mind is relaxed:
Begin the process of time regression: Close your eyes. Start with recalling pleasant memories such as a happy birthday, holiday or vacation. This is to get your mind in the process of retrieving past memories. Take a few minutes and imagine as many details as you can. Put yourself in the situation by seeing the things around you, hearing the sounds, smelling the scents and feeling your body. For example: “I remember a Christmas with family friends. I can see a green box. I open it and see some socks. I feel the stiff cardboard as I open it.” If you replay the event several times you will likely recall more and more details.
Now it’s time to apply it to your lost item: With your eyes closed and your mind relaxed, remember a time when you had it. It could be the very last time you remember seeing it or a previous time. See it in your minds eye. Allow yourself to be “in” the situation. To immerse yourself. Imagine you are in your own body looking out from your own eyes. (Not looking at yourself on a movie screen)
Ask yourself the following questions: What do I see. What am I doing. Do I feel the item in my hand? . Am I in a hurry to go somewhere/ Had I just hung up the phone. Did I just walk into the house? What sounds can I hear. Are the kids there in the house with me? Continue to replay this over and over. More and more details will come to you. Then do the same thing with an other situation in which you had the item. Eventually, the memory of last time you had it will surface.
If you still haven’t found the item: Create a hot air balloon in your mind’s eye. This is a communication device from your conscious mind to your unconscious mind. Put a picture of the item in the balloon. Ask for the item to be found. See a picture of yourself holding the item again. Put that in the balloon. Now release the balloon and watch it going higher and higher until you can no longer see it. Feel yourself let go of the problem.. . Your unconscious mind is now on a search. Go about your daily activities. Let the process ‘percolate’. It may take a couple of hours, or days. At some point when you least expect it, like a bolt of lightening, you just might suddenly remember where it is.
*Results are not typical and may vary
- Identify how you experience anxiety now: (see example below)
- Identify how you’d like to experience yourself (see example below)
- End result imagery: close your eyes and imagine things as you want them according to your own the description
This is from someone who experiences anxiety in social situation
1. My current experience: I’m withdrawn, cling close to wall, my eyes dart quickly around the room. When I do interact, I always ask questions and keep them talking so that I don’t have to. If they ask me about myself,I can’t think of anything.
I enjoy my own company because I’m okay with myself. So I like to do things alone. I perceive others as having expectations about how I should dress and I’m never sure about clothes. Also, I’m only physically and emotionally comfortable in casual clothes. In social situations dressier clothes are usually expected.
Also, I’m expected to chit chat and make small talk. I’m not good at that. There is no outcome and that bothers me. It’s just about aimless talking not about a goal. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. With a goal, I know what to do.I’m usually able to pull it off. No one sees me as failing because I know how to fake it. I know how to just get through it. But there’s no enjoyment for me. I guess success would be if I enjoyed it. I get through it without joy
I’m looking at my face and seeing the tension. (she is describing dissociation)
I feel stuck like I can’t move. I can’t go from one thing to another. I can’t talk to someone then get up and get a drink then talk to someone else. If I am talking to someone, I feel frozen in that place.
2. How I’d like to experience myself in the situation
Talking comfortably with one person, sitting in a chair, face muscles relaxed. I guess success would be if I enjoyed it.
I’d know what to do and say. Or I wouldn’t care and just do and say what ever came to mind. .The conversation would go back and forth instead of me asking questions about her.
I’d look forward to it. I’d enjoy getting to know a person or two. I could talk about myself as well as listen to them. I’d like to talk about myself without self-consciousness….to believe they care at all about what I have to say.I’d like not to have to keep them talking so I don’t have to talk about myself.
I’d feel ease in moving around the room and changing my focus of attention. Maybe from one person to another. Or from one activity to another. I would feel open to having someone approach me instead of having to be in control of choosing someone to talk to.
3. Close your eyes and either picture yourself or use self-talk to imagine the above.
*Results are not typical and may vary
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I hear it all the time….Well it was your choice to drink that beer or eat that junk food. If it’s really a choice, why would you indulge since it goes against the thing you really want? You know these substances are poisons that are killing your body? You want to be healthy or slim or a non-drinker or whatever the case may be.
The truth is, most decisions are made below the level of awareness.Subliminal messages we hear and see throughout life are responsible for beliefs. It is those beliefs that determine our attitude, perspective and ultimately our behavior.
Here are 3 simple steps to change a habit.
- Admit that it is more than just a habit. It is unconscious decision you need to change
- Create a strong motivation or desire for the result. A strong motivation needs to benefit you. Word it in a way that gives you the benefit not someone else. Weak motivation: My wife is always mad at me because I drink. It will make her happy if I stop. Strong motivation: I will enjoy my family more.
- Condition the unconscious mind with mental rehearsal- Choose one situation in which the habit is deeply ingrained. Now close your eyes and visualize it the way you would like it to be. For example: Let’s say you always drink to relax after work. Imagine instead, that you come home from work and listen to a relaxing self-hypnosis recording. After the 15 minute relaxation, the desire to drink is gone. You get up and get on with your evening. Repeat this once or twice per day until it becomes your reality. Then choose an other situation to revamp.
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Until next time….
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A book review of Choices and Illusions by Eldon Taylor
With life stories and proven science, Eldon Taylor takes us through an empowering journey. If you believe you choose your life, you are simultaneously mistaken and correct. Throw in some philosophy and you have his book Choices and Illusions, Taylor explains how subliminal messages we hear and see throughout life are responsible for beliefs. It is those beliefs that determine our behavior, attitude and perspective. When an event occurs which effects our emotions, a belief results.
For example, if, as a youngster, no one was home when you returned from school, you may have felt scared and unsafe. You might develop a belief that you must take care of yourself because no one is dependable. Out of this belief, as an adult, you may thwart attempts from others to help you in anyway. You believe they aren’t there for you and you behave in a way to prove your truth. Thus the Illusion of choice. Is he saying we are destined to be victims of our past conditioning?
Not at all. Here is where Taylor shows you how to create choice. He explains how you can take the very same mechanism; learning that takes place below the level of awareness, and condition yourself the way you want to believe and behave. He calls this his “InnerTalk” program. This is his version of subliminal messaging.
If you are familiar with the movie, “The Secret” and the accompanying philosophy, ‘The law of attraction’, Choices and Illusions will enhance your understanding. In addition, it will enable you to decide what you want to attract, and show you how to create the supporting belief.
If this is your first introduction to this type of thinking, hold on to your hat because you are in for a great ride. Taylor doesn’t just give you the information and leave you to your own devices. The book comes with a CD already programmed with self improvement subliminal messages.
If you are looking for a path in which to carve out your future, this is an excellent tool.
Nikki Goldman Ph.D. is a clinical hypnotherapist in private practice. She offers a free self-hypnosis audio program which you can listen to anytime of the day or night. Go to
www.DrNikkiGoldman.com and register.